Free Bully Reporting, Comeback Lines and Tons More!

This site gives kids a safe reporting tool to help schools reduce bullying (read review) Based on the principles of Situational Crime Prevention, this tool reduces opportunity for bullying by increasing the number of kids willing to make reports as it collects facts without using names. Schools use reports to investigate and/or increase monitoring to deter bullying. Reports are approved for posting by Tom Letson, a NJ School Counselor. Print and post a sign in your school today! The following skills and strategies may be helpful in dealing with bullying:

This site also includes individual skills and strategies to help empower students when dealing with bullying with the goal of providing a bully with less of a pay-off and bolstering self-esteem. Included are avoidance, selective ignoring, appropriate verbal exchanges, neutral/confident body language and facial expressions, and self control. The use of such personal safety skills by students who deal with bullying is not well researched and subsequently leads some professionals and organizations dealing with bullying to a conclusion such as this:

"An example of a site not being useful or evidence-based would be a site which promotes the message that bullied children are primarily responsible for ending the bullying (e.g., by getting stronger in some way, or by ignoring the bullying)." (http://www.njbullying.org/links.htm)

Teaching students how to appropriately ignore the mean behavior of another does not necessarily promote the message that they are primarily responsible for ending the bullying. Teaching students who are assessed as being good candidates to learn and use skills to avoid and reduce the risk of bullying is comparable to the rationale in teaching personal safety skills and tactics. For example, if teaching rape prevention skills usually includes a strong foundation of awareness, risk reduction and avoidance strategies, why shouldn't bullying prevention? (http://www.rad-systems.com/Articles/community.html) In fact, teaching kids how to deal with bullying should be individualized - what is good for one may not be good for another.

Bullystoppers.com Disclaimer:

Bullystoppers.com is a bullying help and information website managed by Tom Letson, MA LPC LADC, a NJ Licensed Professional Counselor. Bullystoppers.com offers students the free service of anonymously reporting incidents of bullying allegedly occurring at school or on school buses. Reports posted on Bullystoppers.com provide school personnel with enough information to begin an investigation to determine the severity of the bullying, if any. Reports are posted only after review by Tom Letson, MA, LPC, LCADC, to deter false reporting. Bullystoppers.com cannot guarantee that a report approved for posting is not false. Tom Letson MA LPC LCADC is not liable for any report posted on Bullystoppers.com which after school investigation proves to be false. All reports will be removed from Bullystoppers.com immediately at a school official's request. Reports not meeting Bullystoppers.com criteria will not be posted and will be deleted. Bullystoppers.com will not be held liable for any report deleted for any reason. Reports containing names or initials of students or staff members, or accusing school officials of negligence will be not be posted.

Bullystoppers.com strongly suggests schools use the information contained in a posted report to determine the severity of bullying and harassment, if any, and any necessary methods of intervention. Tom Letson MA LPC LCADC is not liable for any damage whatsoever which may potentially result from a school failing to investigate a report of bullying posted on Bullystoppers.com. Bullystoppers.com posted reports are not to be used to report potential threats of violence. Reports containing such threats will not be posted. Students are directed to call 9-1-1 to report emergencies in which someone may be in danger. Tom Letson MA LPC, LCADC is not liable for any damages which may result from a report of violence not posted on Bullystoppers.com or reported to Bullystoppers.com via email.

Tom Letson, MA LPC LCADC also provides information to visitors that may be helpful to any individual who desires help with bullying issues. This includes suggested examples of comebacks to use with bullies and how to use comeback lines. The outcome of using comebacks in bullying situations cannot be guaranteed. Students, parents and educators use comeback examples appearing on the Bullystoppers.com web site at their own risk. The information provided is not intended to take the place of professional therapy or legal advice. The help of a licensed mental health profession or attorney is strongly recommended for any child and/or parent experiencing bullying at school.